"He has shown you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God."
Micah 6:8

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Second Visit

Today we got to go visit our girl again!  Not knowing what to expect since yesterday went so well.  We were told that sometimes that happens and then the second visit not so well.  This would be very common. 


As we got there we got a little smile and then it took about 15 minutes for her to warm up to us.  She was considerably more tired today and a little more clingy to her foster mother.  The night before she had stayed up until 12 playing with her foster sisters.  They are all very sad.  It just really crushes me to see them upset.  Today her sweet foster mother began to cry on the couch and Sadie got up and walked over to her.  She is really sensing that something is happening.  


Today we go and say goodbye to her foster mother and take her back to the hotel with us.  We are so filled with every kind of emotion possible.  This precious FM has loved her like her own.  Sadie has been her little buddy for the last 15+ months.  This woman could not have done a better job with Sadie and preparing Sadie for her transition.  But it is going to be very hard! 


Yesterday, Stella, our social worker here in HK took us to her office to give us the necessary paperwork to travel home and......she gave us a life book for Sadie.  We have a book that is filled with pictures documenting every month since she was born until the present....because of her foster mom.  If that wasn't enough, she is giving us several cd's filled with pictures that the foster mom has taken since her birth!!  We were overwhelmed!  We are so thankful to Stella and her foster mom for taking the time, caring for Sadie, and giving us this priceless gift that we will treasure and that Sadie will love as she gets older!


We are really enjoying our time here in HK but we are ready to get home and to have our children meet their new little sister! We miss our kids!!!!!   We can't wait to introduce our new little addition!


Right now I am fighting a bunch of different emotions because in a few short hours we go to say goodbye to the only family Sadie has known.  I am all over the place with this and dreading that goodbye.  We CAN'T wait to get our girl!!  Also though this mother has just loved so unbelievably and we are reaping the benefits from the time and love that she has put into raising Sadie.  There is not a doubt in my mind that Sadie will struggle, cry, maybe even withdraw a little because her attachment to her FM is so strong.  She NEEDS to do this.  She needs to grieve.  She will attach again to us but it will be a process.  One that we will work very hard to form.


Will you pray for us today?  Our hearts are soooo excited to get our baby girl but we are definitely struggling with the goodbye part.  We feel so connected to this foster mother for all that she has been and is.  She is such a sweet spirit and to have watched the way she has interacted with Sadie these past few days has been a privilege.  God answered the prayers we had for a loving environment and care for our baby girl as we waited on the other side of the world.  We are humbled by His amazing love. ( I am having a very hard time uploading pics for some reason:(  I will try again later)


He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.  Psalm 147:3


And my God will meet your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:19


Great is our Lord and mighty in Power; his understanding has no limit.  Psalm 147:5

10 comments:

  1. Wow, so many emotions to handle....we are so thankful as you that Sadie has been given so much love and care as you prayed and can also understand how heartbreaking this bittersweet time is! When I say that I know I can't totally comprehend the extent of all of your emotions, but am just trying to imagine how gut-wrenching this time will be for the two of you, for Sadie's foster mom, for Sadie and the other little girls who will miss their foster sister.
    Our prayers are with you all, Lisa, Dan & Erik

    ReplyDelete
  2. I am so happy for you guys!

    Tears here Cayte. Tears of happiness for you guys and tears of happiness for Sadie girl, she is so blessed! Blessed by a foster mom (and family) who LOVES her and blessed by your family who has prayed and loved her for 11 months. Blessed to be a child of our Heavenly Father who loves her more than any of us can imgaine.

    Tears for the foster mom. What a dear woman, I will be praying for her.

    ReplyDelete
  3. What perfect and beautiful verses you ended with--I will be praying those for you and your family. Praying too for Sadie's fm--she sounds wonderful! What a blessing to have such a loving mom figure for your daughter.

    ReplyDelete
  4. I truly believe that God works all things together for our good...all things including the bad or not so good feeling things in our lives, to fulfill His purposes in and through us. I will pray for you as you surround her with all the love that you can possibly give her and for her as she adapts to a new life and a new world. I know God will lead you step by step day by day. Praying...

    ReplyDelete
  5. What an amazing day it will be and it will be one of the hardest. It is so wonderful that Sadie got to spend her life so far being loved and in one place. what a blessing. As soon as she is yours you will definately be ready to go home and have your kids together. I remember feeling that and then you will have such strong emotions about your children all meeting each other! It is the most amazing thing. We will be praying for everyone involved today!

    ReplyDelete
  6. Prayers from here, for you and Bob, Sadie, her FM, her foster family, and your kids as they await the arrival of their new sister.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Covering you all in prayer!

    ReplyDelete
  8. Cayte - I am praying for you today. Thank you for sharing your heart through this whole process. I'm sure many have been blessed and will continue to be blessed by your love for our God and the total and complete willingness to be used by Him. I believe that your initial meeting with your Sadie that was so positive is a confirmation of how right this is. May God bless you and your wonderful husband as you bring Sadie home. You all have a lot to look forward to!

    ReplyDelete
  9. Praying for you. You have been so blessed to have such a devoted foster mother!!!

    ReplyDelete